just so we’re clear:

  • getting called out for doing something shitty is not the same as “getting hate”
  • if someone is telling you that you did something shitty, they are not criticizing you as a person
  • messing up does not make you an irredeemably awful human being
  • but how you respond to criticism can be a pretty good indicator of your awfulness

Internalize the bold.

I want you
at your drunkest nights
when you cannot think straight
and come tumbling through the doorway
with a bottle in your hands
and a cigarette between your lips.

I want you
in my bed when you cannot sleep
and talk about why
God does not reveal himself and
if there is an alternative universe out there
besides us.

I want you
when you are slamming the doors
and punching walls out of frustration.
Come to me when you are angry
and scream at me
or just stay silent.

I want you
when you are tough to handle
and when you can’t handle yourself
and excited about our newest adventures
and even when you are being sarcastic,
I still want you.

I want you
when you are drunk or sober
and everything else in between.

Ming D. LiuBetween Being Drunk And Sober (via funnybunchesofoats)

Thoughts about social media

If there’s something I’ve learned in the last couple of years is that broadcasting your feelings right at the moment you feel them is, most of the time, a bad idea. Human emotions are such fickle things; one minute you’re enraged about something the next thing you know you start to find yourself okay with it.
Before you hit that tweet/post button, think. Let things settle first, wrap your head around it, chew, digest, and once you’ve, somehow, sorted stuff out and still feel it necessary to share how you feel about that particular thing, then go and click that button.
Or better yet, find someone you can talk to; someone who will really listen to you. Human connection is more important than your twitter standing or tumblr posts.


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The years between eighteen and twenty-eight are the hardest, psychologically. It’s then you realize this is make or break, you no longer have the excuse of youth, and it is time to become an adult – but you are not ready.

Helen Mirren (via mystiquel)